Certainly, you don’t want to think that it can happen, but if you’ve been attracting the bad boys, then it can. Cheating by any means is never fun if you’re the one being cheated on, and cheaters do not choose their timing. And you can be cheated even on a Valentine’s Day by your partner.
If you catch your partner in the act, here are some tips to survive the ensuing heartbreak:
In my newly developed program, 7 Steps to Personal Empowerment, steps 1 and 2, which mainly prepare you to go out there: in step one you’re learning about yourself and what you want in your life and relationship and step 2 is about developing a belief that you CAN have what you want. Steps 3 through 6 are about going out there after your dream. The way that these steps really work is that, interestingly enough, you don’t get to step 7 until you’re actually ready. If you aren’t ready after step 6, you fall back to step 3 and start the cycle all over again.
Step 3 is going out there asking for what you want, step 4 is setting boundaries and saying no to what you don’t want, step 5 is about dealing with rejection and step 6 is about consistency and continuing on your journey in spite of fears and doubts that creep up on you in the process. One other thing I discovered about these steps is that you never stay still stuck on any particular step. You ether move forward or you fall back. If you don’t deal with the pain of rejection in the moment, you will lose the desire to go back out there as you will start fearing it even more. When rejection becomes too painful for you to handle, it will be even harder for you to say “no” to others as you will not wish this “pain” upon anyone.
When you first start thinking about how you can get the ex back, it is very easy to make the whole thing seem much more complicated than it really is. Fear of the unknown can hold you back from even trying.
And if you begin to do anything about getting back together, because you are acting emotionally instead of logically you can make a lot of mistakes that could easily ruin any chances of making up.
In the beginning you need some good straight forward relationship breakup advice and here are some quick easy to follow steps to get you moving in the right direction.
Step 1
Give your ex some space. Your natural instinct is to try and convince them to come back but this is a big mistake. If your ex does not feel the same way as you do about the breakup you will only end up losing control of yourself and could even look like you are begging.
Showing your ex that you are desperate to get back with them will only push them away from you. Acting like this will let them see that you are only trying to benefit yourself. You’re down and depressed and you want to make yourself feel better.
Putting them in this situation and causing a scene will only make them feel uncomfortable. Give your ex some space to breathe. Stay calm and take a little time to consider how you should approach them.
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02 16th, 2011| 